Sports Parents: Do Your Kids Want Your Approval?
Communicating With Sports Kids After Mistakes A sports parent says: “I feel I need assistance with what to say to kids after they have made a mistake…” Learning to deal with mistakes is one of the most beneficial aspects of sports psychology, and will benefit your children through.... More »
Last week I received the following email (edited for anonymity). We get calls and emails like this quite often from amazing, passionate coaches who are trying to make a difference. Take a read: Dear John, I’m currently a head football coach…I took over the program last January after bein.... More »
I got an email from a distraught parent the other day. She described a scene where the coach was screaming at the girls after a loss. She was beside herself at how the coach treated the girls. He was demeaning, he was loud and scary, and he had lost perspective on the age he was The post Can Youth S.... More »
Is Your Young Athlete a Perfectionist? A young athlete asks: “I’m 14 years old and have been playing tennis since I was 5. But 2 years ago I started to go to an academy. And at the same time I started to play tournaments. One of my coaches calls me a bull because I’m always so stu.... More »
FOR THE PARENT…. I want to discuss difficult moments in an athlete’s life when – as the Mom or Dad – you find yourself on the spot to have to say the right thing – to find the precise words – to talk with your son or daughter when things aren’t going their way. We’re talking .... More »
Pressure And Social Approval
Often, young athletes worry too much about what teammates, parents, coaches and friends think about how they’re performing on the court, field or course.
When they seek others’ approval of their performance and abilities, and then don’t do well, they can feel inadequate…