ON THE CAR RIDE HOME……..DEAR MOM AND DAD, + MORE

ON THE CAR RIDE HOME……..DEAR MOM AND DAD, + MORE
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Is “I don’t want to talk about it!” an Option in Your House? + MORE

Don’t sweep issues under the rug. Don’t ignore the elephant in the room. Sure, give your kids space and time when they need it, but don’t neglect teaching them this very important skill…       Are you or your child struggling with an issue in youth sports?  I.... More »
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How to “Win at Losing” and our Other Favorite Books of 2017 + MORE

As the summer holidays roll around for those of us in the northern hemisphere, it is a great time to do some reading. Twice a year we compile a list of the books we have enjoyed in the fields of athlete development, leadership, coaching, and parenting, and share them with our readers so that you The.... More »

TRENDS IN SPORTS: How Do You Explain “Tanking” to Kids? + MORE

I suspect that these kinds of conversations will become more common in the next few years: “Coach, the best team in the tournament is in our bracket. But if we somehow figure out a way to lose our next game, we will then go into the loser’s bracket… and then we can bypass playing the top s.... More »

Here’s the Secret to Breaking Bad Habits! + MORE

Breaking bad habits is like building muscle; it takes time and persistence. This short video gives some very practical steps on how to break bad habits. You can break those bad parenting habits with a little work! In order to break the bad, you need to replace with new. My new book, 11 Habits of Ha.... More »

HEROIC ATHLETES/COACHES: Rob Nelson and the Big League Chew Story

Every so often I hear a story that is so remarkable that I feel obliged to share it. And in this case, Rob Nelson – aka “Nellie” – happens to be an old teammate of mine from the college summer leagues. In short, Nellie was a soft-tossing left-handed pitcher out of Cornell who.... More »
If you really want your child to love their sport, feel good about themselves and have a good chance to go as far as possible, then one of your most important jobs besides loving them unconditionally is to NOT coach. And the one place where the most “coaching” happens is on the car ride home right after a competition…

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THE "ART" OF BEING A "BEGINNER"

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In Okinawan karate, the student who passes his/her test for Shodan or first degree black belt is considered to be ready to finally begin his training. SHODAN MEANS BEGINNER. It doesn’t matter that the process leading to Shodan may have been five or more hard years of training. In traditional Okinawan karate, once you get your black belt you are NOT Mr…

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A WINNING ATTITUDE

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In an old school model of competition, which so many in sports continue to embrace today,Your opponent is the “enemy.” You want to crush them, to “hate, kill and destroy” them, No Matter What!This is because, in an old school model of competition, winning is the ONLY thing that really counts and losing is humiliating…

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THE POWER OF DREAMING

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There is NOTHING stronger or more powerful than a DREAMEven in darkness, dreams have an infinite capacity to see lightThey out-live painThey outlast heartbreakThey overcome doubtThey forget imperfectionDREAMS cannot be beaten, broken or takenDREAMS fight, they persevere and they go onBecause determination will always trump disappointmentDesire will always triumph over defeat…

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NURTURE YOUR CHILD-ATHLETE'S PASSION

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As a kid, tennis was the thread that held my life togetherIt was the one place in my world where I felt valued,Where I could go to feel good about myself,Where I dared to dream….Where I could go to calm myself down, And find real joy and fulfillment…It became my primary means of coping with the stressors of growing up and feeling like I never fit in…

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